There You Are, Here I Am
I once heard a man refer to his wife as a “there you are” person, and I have never been able to get that out of my mind. What a great thing to say about someone. What a great thing to have someone say about you. So I began to watch and listen to people and this is what I came up with:
| There You Are People | Here I Am People |
| listen | talk |
| ask questions | give answers |
| reply to you wanting to know more about you | reply to you wanting to tell a better story |
| remember what they tell you | forget they have already told you |
| don’t give their opinions | give you too many of their opinions |
| notice people that are not talking | are always talking |
| ask about your life story | tell their life story again and again |
| listen with their face | wait to speak |
I remember going on a date in college. I came back and my roommate said, “So how was it?” “Great!” I said. She asked me all these questions about him, to which I could give no answer. But, I really liked this guy. How could I like him if I didn’t even know him? It’s because he knew what Dale Carnegie says…”You can make more friends in two months by becoming more interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you”
I love me some Dale!
